Most would vote to delay a piece like this to a later occasion that is not the Holy Month of Ramadhan, given the emotional disturbance poured into this article. I say that I should take the advantage of the fact that this is being written after Iftar, and this would help negate whatever distress I have suppressed inside after the event, in order to pave way for an easier fasting tomorrow. If you’ve seen this article during your fasting period, I invite you to read after Iftar. While it holds no reserves of foul language or sincere attempts to demean any person, the fact that I’m depleting anger as I punch these keys ought to make assurances slightly unwarranted. It can also be argued this article is educational; you be the judge.
The day was particularly sound and pleasant up until the session of Iftar where several topics of enjoyable varieties were brought to the table. I love these debates, the intelligent exchange of facts and the listening sessions; they’re just great, particularly when its followed by such a delicious cosine. However, it’s when sensitive topics like religion that when brought to the table and taken on a personal basis is when your appetite for truth starts to crease, specificly when you try to administer the conversation back to an intelligent more than an emotional level and the sincere attempts to cool things down backfire. My case makes it worse; I’m in the company of two elder people of diverse religions one speaking on behalf of mine. The topic spanned around the reasons as to why a Muslim man is allowed to marry Jews and Christains, but not vice versa. I wait for a proper window of interjection, given the time constraint and go for it. My initial step, given my company’s slightly undermined level of English (which caused a grieve misunderstanding) is to quickly polish and explain his or her standpoint. The first step was done in that person’s favor, and I’m not even given the chance to finish half of my statement, already accused of not stating out the verse fully, while I was yet to pronounce the other half of the syllable! You can imagine the third person’s reaction now; |this young man has no idea what he’s talking about. Best swallow what the other person is telling me, due to the fact that he or she is older and therefore more versed than this man. In my defense, I ask for the chance to finish as I am indeed saying what he or she Is saying, but instead, I am rewarded by what can possibly the most demeaning response. I can hear it behind the cluster of words my mind and the third person’s own are trying to process “I’m older and therefore wiser”. Given! And yes, the more knowledgeable do indeed out weigh the less informed but that does not prevent me from my God given right to either disagree OR agree with you. To spice things up, this person smiles and speaks in a humiliating tone. “This is how he reacts, regardless of what I have taught him.”
I am slammed back into a vortex of distressful thoughts; ‘taught him?’ Excuse me, when have you EVER decided to sit on the other end of that chair, open a book and convey your most valued teachings and unbiased opinions. How long have you allowed yourself to even listen to what I have to say about particular matters in Islam (in an attempt to ask for your opinion, rather than refute you)? How many times was I allowed to question some of your explanations out of sincere concern before screaming at me? In fact, what HAVE you taught me? Let’s get more critical; how can you boast about that degree of yours when you’re unable to sit for two minutes listening a younger man disagree with you (assuming that he is right now)?
Author's Note: "What have you taught me" statement is a bit harsh, but I'm keeping it as a reminder to know what I'm writing first before articulating my emotions.
Author's Note: "What have you taught me" statement is a bit harsh, but I'm keeping it as a reminder to know what I'm writing first before articulating my emotions.
I invite every reader of this article to look up Omar bin Abdul Aziz,; quite possibly the most just leadership the Muslims have ever enjoyed through out history after the Prophet and the companions, a true model! I want you to look up the response that Omar got from a seven year old boy, when the young man was about to speak before Omar interjected and said: “Let your elders speak.” (not in a demeaning tone of course) . See what the child said.
I’m snapped out of my storm of thoughts, being asked as to what I was about to say. . . They honestly believe that after my humiliation, I would have something intelligent to add, after I was absolutely dismissed. In my verbal attempt to return to what I was saying; I simply paused and said I forgot. They laughed.
And I ask myself…How do the Muslims of the twentieth century expect to have their youth help the religion flourish, if all they want produced are carbon copies of themselves?